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[–]vincebaskerville 4 points5 points ago

That's completly normal. The trick is to really just still try not to let yourself go. You still want to do some of the old 'fun' things, going to movies, french-toast-fridays, obstacle racing courses, bars.. whatever they are.

We've just hit our 1year mark & we all have premature greys growing everywhere — but if you ask anyone else they'll say we're doing great. It's all part of the game.

Keep your head up and you'll be ok :)

[–]eaturbrainz 1 point2 points ago

Crap. I haven't even made my start-up idea an official company with two co-founders yet, and this is how I feel all the time.

[–]TiltedPlacitan 1 point2 points ago

I'd highly recommend you get an agreement on paper right now.

[–]eaturbrainz 1 point2 points ago

I don't have a cofounder. I don't have incorporation. I don't have any money. I've just got a prototype I'm working on, and hopefully soon a Kickstarter page to raise seed funding.

[–]pbuschma 2 points3 points ago

I highly recommend mediation 15-20 minutes. It calms down your brain, makes you more productive and more positive. That and 15-20 minutes of exercise.

[–]spinlock 1 point2 points ago

What are the metrics you're looking at?

I'm awful at dealing with the stress and usually wind up looking at reddit when I should be calling back that prospect. Speaking of which ...

[–]FishTacos[S] 0 points1 point ago

Ha! I hear ya - the metrics I use are monthly sales (of course), but more importantly weekly sales figures that track the pipeline, meetings booked, follow ups completed, etc. If I have a certain level of activity on a daily and weekly basis, the more long term goals tend to fall in to place. Also, I go less crazy knowing I hit some daily or weekly goal when I leave work.

[–]tetleyted 1 point2 points ago

I started a uk based company 11 years ago with 2 others (I am the majority share holder). We're on the verge of selling (3 other attempts collapsed) and sorry to say this feeling hasn't left me yet. the worst thing is nobody understands (wife, friends etc) what it feels like (you sum it up perfectly) and you have no way of explaining it to others where it makes any sense to them. The lows are really low the highs are no big deal any more.

[–]FishTacos[S] 0 points1 point ago

Thanks for the reply - the wife and friends definitely don't understand at all. I get "you seem preoccupied" all the time. I'm just trying to tell myself that it is going to be OK and everything isn't going to come falling apart on me overnight.

The funny thing is meeting people who don't feel this way at all. One of my business partners is like Robert Duvall's character in Apocolypse Now. Just stands there on the beach with shells falling everywhere without even considering once that he's in danger. I've got to learn that trick!

[–]ddrmaxgt37 1 point2 points ago

I've had to deal with the same thing before. I found that having something else that keeps you going helps. For me, it is running. I find that running is something that I can consistently improve at. Anytime I feel down at work, I gain strength and confidence by accomplishing something on the running trail.

[–]FishTacos[S] 1 point2 points ago

Makes sense - I just joined Crossfit and that's been a good ritual to have. Also learning to tele ski on the weekends.

[–]mungdiboo 1 point2 points ago

You may want to find places in the real world where you can meet and talk to others in your situation: I'll wager you will find your feelings relatively universal. It's one of the main reasons I go to networking meetups.

[–]amacg 1 point2 points ago

It's normal.

A definition of entrepreneurship is "the pursuit of opportunities with disregard to existing resources". For me, there are two things that happen when you start a company; you deal with risk, and you deal with opportunity.

I tend to always look at the upside and let the downside take care of itself. That said, you must always be prudent in regards to your costs, and obviously take action to ensure they don't prevent you from achieving what you set out to do.

[–]ThomasGullen 1 point2 points ago

How much money do you have? I mean, if you have enough padding for 6 months living it takes that stress away.

I don't know about anyone else, but I don't really stress that much. I do a bit of course, but I enjoy risk a lot. If it fell under my feet I know at the end of the day everything will be OK. It's not like anyone is going to die!

[–]FishTacos[S] 0 points1 point ago

Thanks for the advice! I have $$ stashed, so that's not the worry. I'm not a stressful guy usually. I think it's just a transition period of having this amount of people dependent on me. You're right, what's the worst that can happen!

[–]ThomasGullen 1 point2 points ago

Often when you are in a high stress environment for extended periods of time (for example running your own business) it can have an adverse irrational effect on feelings and emotions like self doubt in my opinion. Sometimes if you just sit/lie down and logically think it all through it can help a lot.

[–]FishTacos[S] 0 points1 point ago

Thanks for the advice! I've never been very emotional, so I have a learning curve to deal with this. There's an unexpected lesson in life for ya.