I am sick with shame and terror. A harassment/discrimination complaint was just filed against me at work - that is all I am allowed to know before my hearing is tomorrow. What should I expect/do?

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

No there isn't, which is why I'm freaked out - my first reaction to me would be "what are you hiding?"

Unfortunately "innocent until proven guilty" is a great legal foundation, but fails - in my experience - to be held up when it comes to things that involve internal politics and image, especially as it is probably more expedient to find fault with me than no fault in terms of raw calculation on the managerial side.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

Thanks - I'll try and keep my freak out to tonight, I plan on being level headed and responsible tomorrow. I will, indeed, chill.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

Thanks - first time I smiled tonight.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

Thank you.

Yeah, I hope it turns out to be a miscommunication. However, making someone feel bad enough to go through formal channels is terrible, even if I didn't intend to. On a more selfish note, it also permanently puts up barriers in my life forever.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

Unfortunately, I don't have much of an idea at all - just a general understanding that for a few decades I've never been quite good at realizing I'm pissing people off until later (which I feel terrible about, unless it was intentional, and that hasn't been the case here).

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

That is indeed the plan, though I have no idea where to go from there.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

That's terrible enough to have to live that down, and certainly doesn't help me internally or later in my career - let alone that I would be "found guilty" of something AND have to live with that.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

I can't tell if it is because I am such a terrible person that I don't even know, or if this is a smaller thing than I think. Either way, it does not end well for me.

ApparentlyBadPerson · 3 months

But I did/said something to cause this. That alone is terrible, if not for the personal guilt by itself. Callously, it also causes an image issue that I'll never, ever get rid of.

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